2011-12-30T21:49:00.000-08:00

my 2012 new year resolution:
1. to complete my degree course smoothly
2. to change my bad temper to be better.
*i know i always look fierce when i don't smile and likes to talk loud which easily to get misunderstanding from other people*
3. to travel oversea no matter what
4. to maintain positive , never give in to the devil whom want to upset me or defeat me,i learn to be strong
5. to participate more in soka activities
*i know i have not been engaging actively in it in the past=x*
6. must do exercise regularly to keep myself healthy
7. to control my spending, not overspend money
8. next, to think of my future . how should it be ..

2011-12-16T01:04:00.000-08:00

Methods for fostering effective coping strategies

It is not possible to exist in a totally stress free environment. Regardless of how much one might want to be completely free from stress, one has to contend with some level of stress everyday in most situations. Given this fact, listed below are some stress management activities suggested by Help Guide [5] that might prove useful.

I. Avoid unnecessary stress . It is not possible to avoid all stressful situations, but one needs to look at the number of stressors in life that can be eliminated.

a.Learn how to say "no." Refuse to accept added responsibilities. Taking on more than one can deal with is a way to increase stress.
b.Avoid stress-producing people. Limit the time spent with such individuals or if necessary, and possible, end the relationship.
c.Take control of the environment. If certain nurses are difficult to work with, if possible, ask for an assignment that does not include direct involvement with these nurses or ask to be assigned to another work shift.
d.Avoid controversial topics. If discussing religious beliefs and politics are upsetting, never bring up such topics in a conversation. Should such topics arise, leave the situation or ask that such topics not be discussed.
e.Narrow down the "to-do" list. Analyze both work and personal schedules and distinguish the "should do" from the "must do" activities.

II. Alter the situation . If it is not possible to avoid a certain stressful situation, then work to alter it. This may involve changing communication patterns or the manner in which daily life is operated.

Express feelings instead of bottling them up inside. If something or someone is of concern, communicate this concern in an open and respectful manner. Failing to voice feelings causes resentment to build and the situation will likely remain the same or become worse.

a.Be willing to compromise. If both parties involved in a situation are willing to bend a little, there will be a better chance of finding a happy middle ground of compromise.
b.Be more assertive. Deal with problems head on, but try to anticipate and prevent them. If someone wants to talk and there is a lot of work, indicate only 5 minutes are available.
c.Manage time better. Create a balanced schedule so there is time for both work and recreation. Do not over commit by scheduling things back to back or trying to fit too much into one day. Prioritize tasks by making lists of things to do and complete them in the order of importance. Learn how to delegate activities to capable others. Let go of trying to control or oversee every aspect of an activity.

III. Accept the things you cannot change . Some sources of stress are unavoidable.

One cannot prevent or change stressors, such as death of a patient or loved one. The best way to cope with stress is to accept things as they are. While acceptance may be difficult, in the long run, it is easier than trying to change that which cannot be changed.

a.Do not try to control the uncontrollable. Many things in life are beyond our control. This is especially true in regards to the behavior of other people. Rather than becoming stressed, focus on things that can be controlled, such as the way to react to problems.
b.Look for the positive side of a situation. When facing major challenges, try to see them as opportunities for personal growth. Learn from personal mistakes.
c.Learn to forgive. Accept the fact we live in an imperfect world and people make mistakes. Let go of anger and resentment, and be free of negative energy by moving on.

IV. Adapt to the stressor . If the stressor cannot be changed then regain a sense of control by changing expectations and attitudes.

a.Reframe problems. Try to view stressful situations from a positive perspective. For example, if there is a delay in receiving patient care supplies, view this time as an opportunity to regroup or to do something else.
b.Look at the big picture. Ask how important this situation is in the long run. Is it really worth getting upset over? If the response is no, then focus time and energy somewhere else.
c.Adjust standards. Trying to be perfect is a major source of avoidable stress. Stop demanding self-perfection. Set standards that are reasonable and learn to be okay with some things that are "good enough."
d.Focus on the positive. When stress is occurring, take time to reflect on positive things in life, including personal abilities and talents.

V. Take care of personal needs . Make healthy lifestyle choices. Take time for rest and relaxation. Nurturing ones' self is not a luxury, but a necessity.

a.Set aside relaxation time. This includes rest and relaxation every day. Obtain sufficient sleep each night. Generally, 7-8 hours each night is recommended for the average person.
b.Connect with others. Spend time with enjoyable people who are supportive. A good support system helps buffer the negative effects of stress.
c.Do something every day that is enjoyable. This could include reading, watching television, playing a musical instrument, and doing handicrafts or cooking.
d.Keep a sense of humor. Learn to laugh. Find something humorous in as many situations as possible.
e.Exercise regularly. Make time for at least 30 minutes of exercise, three times a week. This could include walking, engaging in an exercise plan, or taking part in a sport.
f.Eat a healthy diet. Consume balanced, nutritious meals throughout the day. Avoid overeating and undereating as solutions to stress.
g.Avoid alcohol, smoking, and drugs. Self-medicating with alcohol or drugs may seem like an easy escape from stress, but relief is only temporary. In addition, the side effects of these substances can often prove fatal in the long run.

Keep in mind no one solution for dealing with stress works for everyone. No single method works for every situation, so one has to experiment with different strategies and focus on what fosters control and calm.

quote from: nurses' workplace stressors and coping strategies 2008,14(1)pp38-44

2010-07-01T09:33:00.000-07:00

也许我需要看得广一点，这样才不会想得太狭窄

2009-03-25T04:36:00.000-07:00

'being single isn't discriminate but it's because hasn't meet the right man in the right time yet...'

the quote actually was created from myself.. since last year everyone around me in working place and at home started to asking me to look for a bf.. so i came out with this quote as i really couldn't think of other thing else for answer about it.

it's not easy to find a true love...

by the way, i hate the unreasonable person..so childish lor....

winnie